Emotional Exhaustion

We all know what it feels like and sounds like when we’re near burnout. It’s that total sense of mental, physical and emotional exhaustion. We don’t want to go to work, we’ve lost our motivation, our immune systems plummets, we have emotional outbursts, and we feel out of control and fight harder to gain control, which leads to more exhaustion.

These are the signs that tell us to stop, reflect, ask for help, be kind to ourselves, get lots of sleep, drink lots of water and if necessary, see a doctor. In addition, a really big one is a shift in attitude. If you’re of the belief that everything happens for a reason, then look for what the gift is in any situation. What can you be grateful for in the moment.

Sometimes that is very difficult.

Last month my daughter in law was in an accident and on life support for 5 days before passing. She was such a beautiful, delightful, and smart young woman. We loved her so much and we were all emotional exhausted from shock, worry, and loss.

I find that I operate on adrenalin during these times and then when it was over, I could hardly pick myself up off the bed. I had to make that okay. I had to realize that this too would pass, grieving takes time, and it takes time for the body to rebuild. I was patient with myself, didn’t push myself nor get hooked into to the ‘shoulda, woulda, couldas’.  I had to find a way to balance the need to support my family, replenish my body and Spirit, and keep my mind occupied on positive activities.

Yes, as you’ve heard me say over and over again, thoughts matter. And at times of tragedy, loss or unhappiness, they matter even more.  If you seem to be unable to shift your perspective, say a prayer asking to see things differently. When I did this, someone shared a metaphor with me that really started me thinking and helped with closure. The story says that life is like a movie, sometimes we like the movie and sometimes we don’t. When we don’t like the movie, maybe we get up, walk out and meet our friends outside after it’s over.  Those of us left in the theatre may feel a bit lonely, but the one out in the lobby is just fine eating milk duds and popcorn, or whatever their idea of heaven may be.

Who’s to say you can’t use this metaphor for your job as well?

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~ by transformativethoughts on September 8, 2009.

2 Responses to “Emotional Exhaustion”

  1. I don’t know If I said it already but …Excellent site, keep up the good work. I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but, I just wanted to make a quick comment to say I’m glad I found your blog. Thanks, 🙂

    A definite great read..Jim Bean

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