Words of Comfort

I recently read Matt Haig’s newest publication, The Comfort Book, and found it inspiring. Since many people find the holidays difficult, I thought I’d share just a few of the book’s highlights. I hope if you find yourself feeling a lack of peace, the following will bring some new perspectives.

You were born worthy of love and you remain worthy of love. Be kind to yourself.

It’s okay to be the teacup with a chip in it. That’s the one with a story.

It’s okay to let people find you. You don’t have to spread yourself so thin you become invisible. You don’t always have to be the one reaching out; you can allow yourself to be reached. As Anne Lamott puts it: “Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island for boats to save; they just stand there shining.”

It’s helpful to remember that our perspective is our world. And our external circumstances don’t need to change in order for our perspective to change.

External events are neutral. They only gain positive or negative value in the moment they enter our minds. It is ultimately up to us how we greet these things.

To feel hope you don’t need to be in a great situation. You just need to understand that things will change. Hope is available to all.

In order to get over a problem it helps to look at it. You can’t climb a mountain that you pretend isn’t there.

There is something bigger than depression, and that thing is time. Time disproves the lies depression tells.

We are always bigger than the pain we feel. Always.

Don’t envy things you wouldn’t actually want.

Don’t absorb criticism from people you wouldn’t go to for advice.

Continually looking for the meaning of life is like looking for the meaning of toast. Sometimes its better just to eat the toast.

Hope isn’t the same thing as happiness. You don’t need to be happy to be hopeful. You need to accept the unknowability of the future, and there are versions of that future that could be better than the present. Hope is the acceptance of possibility.

There is no point spending an entire life trying to win the love you didn’t feel when you needed it. You sometimes just have to let go of an old story and start your own. Give yourself some love. You can’t change the past. You can’t change other people. You can change you though. You narrate this story. So start a new chapter.

Perhaps 2022 is a new and even better chapter!

Here’s wishing you all a wonderful, happy and peaceful 2022!


~ by transformativethoughts on December 10, 2021.

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